When I turned 40, So, this is the beginning of the final stretch, The first half of my life done and dusted.”

And slowly, the truths I had avoided all my life began to surface.

Kids? They’re busy writing their own story, supporting them to realise their dream is my priority.

Health? Slips away faster than sand through open fingers.So need to look after myself

The government? Just headlines, promises, and numbers that never change your daily reality.

Aging doesn’t hurt your body first, it hurts your illusions.So I sat down with myself and carved out a handful of bitter but necessary truths

Kids don’t save you from loneliness, enjoy them until they are with U.Children grow, life pulls them in every direction, and U become a memory they visit when time allows.

U smile, and yet something inside U remains strangely hollow.

Kids bring joy—but they are not a shield against loneliness.

We must support our spouse to deal his demon.

Health is not forever.

One day, the outings you once jumped into with enthusiasm feel like a marathon.

You realize health was never a background character—it was the main pillar holding your life steady.

Retirement and money.

Retirement is not a reward—it’s a reality check.

Depending on the system is like standing on thin ice.

Bills grow, needs grow, prices grow, but support doesn't.

So I rebuilt my life in a few rules — honest, sharp, practical rules for living with dignity.

Rule 1:

• Money is more reliable than anything else.
• Love UR kids, cherish them.
• but don’t make them your retirement plan.
• Save for yourself.
• Even small savings create big freedom.
• Financial independence is dignity.

Rule 2:

• UR health is your real job.
• Nothing else matters if your body refuses to cooperate.
• Move,Walk,Stretch.
• Guard your sleep like treasure.
• Eat cleaner. Reduce the poison disguised as sugar and salt.
• Illness doesn’t discriminate,but it respects those who take responsibility for themselves.

Rule 3:

• Create your own joy.
• Waiting for others to make you happy is the fastest way to heartbreak.
• So you learn to enjoy the small things—a peaceful breakfast, a good book, music that warms the soul.
• When U know how to make yourself happy, loneliness loses its power.

Rule 4:

• Aging is not an excuse to become helpless.Some people turn aging into a performance of complaints.
• And slowly, even those who love them start stepping away.
• Strength is attractive.
• Resilience is magnetic.
• People respect the ones who stay capable, not the ones who surrender.

Rule 5:

• Let go of the past.
• The good old days were beautiful, Yes But they’re gone, and there is no return ticket.
• Clinging to the past steals the present.
• Life today may look different, but it still holds moments worth living.

Rule 6:

• Protect your peace like it’s UR property.Not every argument needs your voice.
• Not every insult needs your response.
• Not every relative deserves access to your emotions.Peace is expensive.
• Protect it from drama, negativity, and draining people even if they're UR close ones.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          --Dr.R.Vijaya Sarawathy(Editor-In-Chief Women of Substance)